Maintain eye contact- seems simple right? Wrong! It takes skill and finesse to do it right. Aaron Marino of alpha m. says it’s comes down to a balance of eye contact and breaking gaze. It’s uncomfortable talking to one who locks and loads.
Eye contact is good but if you ever talk to that guy that takes to a new level of intensity, it’s too much! But for those who look everywhere but you, you tend not to trust them. There’s a delicate balance that needs to take place.Eye contact is critical component of the communication process: maintaining eye contact as well as properly breaking gaze balance. Here’s how to do it:
- Holding a gaze should be 5 -10 seconds or someone can feel uncomfortable. Break gaze and take it back. It makes the conversation feel better and less intense.
- If you are speaking to multiple people, group, or audience, shift for every 2 -3 seconds. Constantly be moving and adjusting. Look people in the eye.
- When you are the one listening, the same 5 -10 second rule applies. When you break, make an acknowledgement.
- Pay attention to what your eyes and eye brows are saying. Facial expressions are a big deal with how we are received.
- When you break gaze, don’t look toward your phone. Put your phone in your pocket or bag.