7 Things I WISH I Learned in My 20s

December 2, 2021
I have to get something off of my chest. This is something that is important to me — how much I care about you, respect you, and appreciate you being part of my life. I wish I learned sooner to tell people how much they mean to me before it’s too late. I wonder if my grandfather knew how much he meant to me — hindsight is 20/20. But I don’t want you to be in that position, like I was. I have learned every lesson the hard way, and so I now am sharing these lessons with you so you won’t repeat them.

Your life can change too — but without making the same mistakes I did.

  1. Tell the people that you love that you love them NOW — tell them while they’re alive; let them know you care about them, that you love them, that you think they’re incredible, or that they’ve impacted your life in a positive way. You can send a text if you need to. Don’t live like there’s a tomorrow.
  2. Life is not fair (deal with it) — life is not equal and fair to everyone. Focus on what you are going to do to change your life because  only you can control your actions.
  3. The harder you work, the luckier you get — I hate the word ‘luck.’ A better word is ‘fortunate.’ Luck is work and preparation; you have to bust your nuts and work your ass off.
  4. You can’t outrun your past — you have to deal with the past or it will manifest in other ways. Therapy helped me to deal with the bad things and understand them so I could move forward in my life.
  5. You are not invincible — I thought that … until I had a bleeding ulcer, ruptured my Achilles tendon, and got a DUI. You think you are young and sexy, but as you age, poor decisions will catch up with you.
  6. Don’t give ‘pretty people’ a pass — it’s not okay if someone is sassy but treats people poorly. That person is a sh!t person!
  7. People don’t change — if there is someone in your life that is proving they’re a bad person or not right for you, even if they say they’ll change, they won’t. It’s all about integrity and character.
  8. You are the only one who can make you happy — an external force can’t make you happy. Stuff won’t make you happy. It’s not the money; it’s the relationships and helping others.

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